Are Unemployed Friends Bringing Your Job Chances Down?
It’s true that being unemployed is no fun. You’re cut off from the work place and many of your regular contacts are nowhere to be found. Its ironic how eagerly people look forward to having time off when they’re holding down a job but are so desperate to secure employment when they have all the time in the world at home. Regardless, being without a job can be a crushing experience that quickly mounts until hopelessness and despair sets in.
Psychology plays a big part in being unemployed, especially if you have a partner or school aged children. Your significant other gets up and heads to work. The kids get packed up in the morning and sent off to the school bus. All that’s left is you and an empty house. That kind of pressure builds up and crushes down on a person. Before long, the frantic activity of trying to find a new job begins dying down. Either responses are not forthcoming or there just isn’t anything good out there. Where do you turn in the meantime?
Talking to your partner is always a good start. However, if this person is at work all day it may be hard to find comfort when you need it during the regular working hours. The same goes for employed friends. Venting about your frustrations often falls on the most receptive ears when that person is also unemployed. It makes sense to pal around with people who have been laid off. Both of you have plenty of free time to commiserate about the tough job market and how it feels to be unemployed. There’s nothing wrong with this. Everyone needs some time to air their feelings and grievances.
However, there has to come a time when the talking stops and the doing begins. Hanging around all day with unemployed friends and family isn’t going to nab you a job. Joining job clubs isn’t much of a solution either. I doubt an unemployed friend is going to hand you a position unless they are clearly under qualified for it.
The best place to keep up your job search is to stay in regular contact with employed friends or old coworkers. The key is not to center your conversation on how you feel but rather keep it upbeat and cordial. Remember your networking skills. Staying in touch with those who are employed still can garner you results. How else are you going to get a leg up on the competition besides having good connections? Venting your feelings is fine from time to time but there’s going to come a time when you need to step up to the plate. Schmooze with the employed and keep your ear to the ground. Other unemployed people aren’t going to readily hook you up with a new occupation.